Tango & Trust

It’s still the beginning of the year, may be you are back in to the swing of things: you’ve identified your goals and even what this year intends for you.  There are eleven more months to get it done and with it I hope a sense of hope.  Yet, do one or two confounding problems stick around, a problem that require a conversation: an obstructionist committee or board member, a client who is hard to read or reach, or a sensitive, fraught subject to discuss with a family member?  If yes, read on.  If not, ignore the rest of this message, please hit reply and tell me how you manage.

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A few weeks ago I became really excited about the implications of recent neuroscience research on resilience.  I resolved to share my enthusiasm about the updated but simple definition and effective tools to become more resilient (without gritting your teeth or exhausting willpower).  Before I could transmit the email Life gave me several opportunities to test my resiliency.  Full disclosure, the challenges are pedestrian compared to the tragedies in the lives of personal friends or the front page of the New York Times.  Conclusion: I did not score as highly on the resiliency scale as my Ego would expect.

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Where are you on the Map?

Last week I conducted another workshop on how to achieve your stretch goals – goals so big you don’t know how to achieve them.  The first exercise is to describe Current Reality in detail, without judgment or analysis.  And then to identify the consequences of Current Reality (e.g., unpredictable income, lack credibility, unfit to climb Kilimanjaro) and the emotions and sensations one feels (e.g., fearful, overwhelmed, embarrassed).

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Have You Chartered Your 2014 Journey?

Good Morning,

  • Are you feeling too guilty, confused or lethargic to charge in to 2014?  (Y/N) or
  • Are you too busy with your To Do list to notice how you feel?  (Y/N) or
  • Do you know exactly what needs to be done and why?  (Y/N) or
  • Some combination of the above?

Please hit reply, I am curious to know how it is working for you and will share the results (anonymously of course).

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Looking Back Looking Forward

I read this quote on Christmas Day and wanted to share it with you

If, as Herod, we fill our lives with things, and again with things; if we consider ourselves so unimportant that we must fill every moment of our lives with action when will we have the time to make the long, slow journey across the desert as did the Magi? Or sit and watch the stars as did the shepherds? Or brood over the coming of the child as did Mary?  For each one of us, there is a desert to travel.  A star to discover. And a being within ourselves to bring to life

Authour  Unknown

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Curious How Others Got it All Done?

Monthly Goals: Survey Results
November 25, 2013

The questions “do you set monthly goals and review them monthly?” hit a nerve.  Thank you very, very much for responding.  I learned a lot especially from your comments.  I hope you too will find the results instructive.  207 of you responded.  The majority (69%) does not set monthly goals.  Of those who set monthly goals 71% (46 responses) review them monthly.  Although not asked a few volunteered that:

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Achieving Goals when Willpower Fails You: Key Principles



Presumably, if you are reading this article you have audacious goals, are committed to achieving them, and are curious to learn about Goal-Achievement knowledge and skills.

In the last letter we answered two of the three questions you need answered to thrive and to avoid a life of quiet desperation:
๏    Why do I need to know how to achieve audacious goals?
๏    Why do I repeatedly fail to achieve my goals?

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Achieving Goals when Willpower Fails You

There seems to be a one or two themes or topics common to many conversations I have with people: they have audacious goals but do not necessarily think of themselves as audacious or they are frustrated trying to achieve their audacious goals.  I wonder, is that you?

Forever we have been told to set ambitious goals.  Everyone tells us to set goals but not how to achieve them, especially the big audacious ones; the ones that we know in secret but rarely have the courage to share with others.  It’s as though we are being told to dig a deep hole without a shovel.

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5 Scientifically Proven Steps to Assure Goal Achievement & Happiness

5 scientifically proven steps to assure goal achievement & happiness
One of the pre-requisites to lasting happiness is to do one’s own Great Work.  What today is your Great Work?  Is it to birth a new product to reduce our carbon foot print?  Or to midwife your resistant team in to the new-normal?  Or to nurture a fledging business in to profitability and sustainability?  Or to change your relationship with your aging parent?  Or to destroy corruption in your neck of the woods? When one has a big goal, one needs to change and to grow.  If the change is to be meaningful and lasting one needs to change from the inside. So how does one change?

Achieving Audacious Goals Without Exhausting Willpower

I was asked to write a three-part series about achieving those goals that are so big you don’t know how to achieve them.  I’d be happy to send you a free copy if you reply back.  Choose any or all of the following:

  • Why do I need to know? gives you a brief explanation of why it is imperative for your happiness  to acquire goal-achievement knowledge and skills.
  • What are the key principles? briefly explains the skills and knowledge to repeatedly achieve audacious goals
  • What are the non-negotiable steps for lasting change? highlights the seven proven steps to achieve big, scary goals

In a subsequent article I’ll share the 3-step Planning Process.  Planning for such goals is very specific requiring answers to counter-intuitive questions.

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